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It’s been a few days since the weekend but the faces of the girls and some of their stories and questions will be permanently attached to my heart. Over these last few days, I have found myself thinking back and still processing the moments I had with them.

One girl had tears streaming down her cheeks as she told me that her dad had recently died very unexpectedly and not only that but just last week her mother had been admitted to the hospital. My heart instantly broke for this precious girl as I wrapped my arms around her and just held her for a moment. I could only imagine the sadness, the worry, and the fear that must be enveloping her heart. We talked and prayed together and then went our separate ways, but I have found myself thinking of her and asking God to give her the peace, comfort, and strength that only He can give.

Another girl shared that she had just lost her grandmother who was like a mom to her. Yet another young heart hurting and so in need of a touch from God.

Then, there were two girls that came up to me and had questions. Brave questions. Questions like— what do I do when my friends want me to do something that I am not comfortable doing? How do I say no? How do I draw the line? These were all things that God had led me to speak on in our session, and it was exciting to see that they had truly listened and wanted to know more.

All throughout the evening beautiful teenage girls were asking questions and sharing stories. And as I looked into their eyes and listened to their hearts, it was like time stood still because nothing mattered more than what they were sharing and everything within me wanted to encourage their hearts and cheer them on.

One thing that really became clear to me was that young people are searching and hungry for answers and we as adults can help them. We don’t have to be the coolest, trendiest thing out there to connect and make a difference with teens today. In fact, at 43, I’m probably considered “over-the-hill” by many of them. But when we share from our hearts and boldly use God’s Word to show His principles, young people will listen.

As I thought about my time with them, I came to these conclusions :

  1. Young people need to know we truly care. I believe the way to hear their stories is to share our own. When they know that our lives haven’t been perfect and we know what it is like to go through hard times then they will feel comfortable opening up their hearts and sharing their pain which allows us the opportunity to point them to Jesus.
  2. Young people want to know the truth. I think sometimes as adults we can dance around the truth and even become real vague on the issues facing kids today. Perhaps we do that out of fear of turning them away. Perhaps we do that because we have allowed ourselves to be passive and vague in our own lives. But what I experienced with the girls last weekend is that young people are drawn to courage and will respect us when we speak the truth in a loving way.
  3. Young people will take a stand if we will lead the way. A few of the girls asked questions about movies, music, dating standards, alcohol and the pressures in general that they face on a daily basis. They knew my convictions on these things because I expressed them very clearly and candidly throughout the session but what was exciting was that their willingness to ask more questions truly showed their desire to live for Jesus. I again explained to them that when we know Jesus He lives within us, so He hears everything we say and He is with us in EVERYTHING we do. This truth alone can really help us as Believers in knowing where to draw the line. For example, if I am in a movie and I would be embarrassed if Jesus were sitting beside me, then I should probably not be watching that movie and should walk out. Because the truth is—when I have a relationship with Jesus HE IS ALWAYS WITH ME! So, when we start applying that principle to all of these different areas, the gray areas slip away and the answers become very clear.
  4. Young people can make a difference now. If we are honest, every single one of us wants to matter, and kids especially feel this way. Helping them develop their relationship with God and helping them understand that God has a very special plan for them now can be the very thing that plugs them into the dreams and purposes for which they were created. When they realize that they have opportunities to make a difference in the lives of their friends and other kids at school and when they choose to seize their opportunities to make an impact, they will begin to see God using them in ways they never dreamed possible. They will also begin to experience the confidence and fulfillment that comes with walking in the center of God’s plan for our lives.

As for me, perhaps the biggest take away from the weekend was that there is no point challenging these kids to live for Jesus in every area of their lives if I am not willing to do the same. I must choose EVERY day to surrender EVERY area to Him.

I shared with a few of the girls how years ago when traveling home from concerts, I would occasionally stumble across a People magazine that someone had left behind on the airplane. As I would pick the magazine up and read it to help pass the time on the flight, it didn’t take long for God to convict me because I knew reading about all the Hollywood stars that were divorcing, having affairs, and getting drunk at parties couldn’t possibly go along with Scripture, for it certainly didn’t align with Philippians 4:8:

Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are noble, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Now let me just say that I assured the girls that reading a People magazine is not the worst thing ever, but here’s what God taught me—if I’m not willing to take a stand with the small things, how will I ever stand for the big things that really do matter? How will I say no when I am pressured to do wrong? How will I courageously turn away from the temptations that surround me?

Ultimately, it comes down to choices every day. It’s really that simple. And my heart rejoices that there was a gymnasium full of girls this past weekend with open hearts that said “Yes, I will CHOOSE JESUS each day!”

And with these girl’s commitment fresh in my heart and mind, I ask you and I ask myself the same question:

Will You Choose Jesus Today?




This weekend I will be traveling to West Virginia to speak at an event for teenage girls. I have to say that I can hardly wait. There’s something about being in a room full of teenage girls with their laughter, boundless energy, and endless potential that excites me.  What a fun opportunity and what an awesome responsibility that I do not take lightly.

You see, somewhere in that group there may be a girl that needs to know that she is special and that God loves her and believes in her no matter what has happened in her life. Perhaps another girl needs to be reassured that despite the people who may have disappointed and abandoned her, God will always be there. And then there just might be a girl who needs a little encouragement to spread her wings and boldly live out the amazing dreams God has for her.

I don’t know all the details. I don’t even know their names, but God does. And as I sit here praying for each of them, I believe God is preparing their hearts and mine for a divine appointment with destiny. For even before time began, God knew I would have an hour with these precious girls—an hour that I will never have again with them to share my story and my heart.

Over the last few days, I have asked myself where do I even begin in addressing the key truths that these girls with diverse backgrounds and completely different stories so desperately need? And the thing that I keep coming back to is this: if I had one shot at imparting truth into my own daughter’s heart, what would I share? What would I want her to cling to through the triumphs and heartaches she will face on her journey? What would I want her to know that matters most in life?

Once I began pondering this, these 10 principles began to overflow from my heart:

  1. Live for Jesus now. Don’t wait until you’re older (I Timothy 4:12). The Bible says our lives are a vapor and no one is promised tomorrow, so make today count. You can make a difference in the lives of those around you. If you will shine for Jesus and love people, you can make a HUGE impact. James 4:14
  2. Don’t try to imitate others. Be the BEST version of YOU. A dear friend and I were just talking about this recently, and I have to pass it on. God created you so special and unique and no one else can be YOU.  Psalm 139, I Corinthians 12:12-27, Romans 12:4
  3. Don’t look to a guy or a friendship to complete you. Only God can fill that space. Only He can fill the deepest longing of your soul. John 6:35
  4. When you begin to date, only choose guys that have qualities of someone you would marry. Make sure they love Jesus with ALL their heart—not just with their words but with their actions. 2 Corinthians 6:14
  5. When it comes to purity, YOU are the only one responsible for your body and your heart. Guard both of them carefully. I Corinthians 6:19-20, Proverbs 4:23
  6. Find the purpose and dreams God created you for and passionately live them out.  Before the foundation of the earth was made, God chose you and had a special plan for your life. Philippians 1:6, Ephesians 1:4
  7. Keep your eyes on Jesus. People will let you down, but He will ALWAYS be faithful and true.  Hebrews 13:6, Psalm 20:7
  8. Choose to be BRAVE and BOLD. There is nothing attractive about insecurity. We can be confident because it is not about us but about the POWER that is within us when we know Jesus. Ephesians 3:20, Philippians 4:13
  9. Never forget who you are. You were created in the image of God, and you are a DAUGHTER of the KING. Genesis 1:27, I Peter 2:9
  10. Always know that no matter what happens in life, you are NEVER ALONE. God is WITH you, God is FOR you, and He will NEVER LEAVE YOU! Hebrews 13:5b

So in addition to sharing my story this weekend, these are some of the truths that I believe God is speaking into my heart. Would you join me in praying for these girls? Let’s ask God to do exceedingly, abundantly, and above ALL that we could ever ask or think this weekend. Let’s believe Him for lives to be ENCOURAGED, INSPIRED, and CHANGED for God’s glory.

Oh, and by the way, I will do my very best to give you all an update on Facebook right after the event on Saturday night, so we can celebrate together what God has done.

Many blessings to you all, Paula




As wonderful and as joyous as life can be, there are also times when heartache and heaviness sets in. This week was one such week.

My heart is hurting for a friend whose closest childhood friend has a little girl fighting for her life with cancer. Our family is praying fervently for our daughter’s former Sunday School teacher who has an 11 year-old daughter now battling a serious illness. Our hearts are heavy for our Pastor and his dear family as they laid his mom to rest yesterday. And we continue to deal with our own sadness as we watch my mom’s decline with the merciless disease of Alzheimer’s.

So many burdens. So many heartaches. So many broken dreams.

But it’s amazing how God will reach down and help us put things into perspective when we need it most.

This past week my daughter was relating to me that everyone in her Sunday School class had made a card for Pastor Jonathan. I couldn’t imagine what an eight year-old would write as words of sympathy, so I asked her about it. She quickly responded that she put a Bible verse in her card and then changed the subject. However, I immediately became even more curious and wondered what verse came to her little heart, so being the nosy mom that I am I continued my questioning. Then in her ever so matter-of-fact way she stated, “Well, obviously I put John 3:16.”

I smiled thinking that she probably used that verse because it was the one that she was most familiar with but something inside of me made me probe further. Upon doing so, she looked at me with a look like “Mom, don’t you get it?” and proceeded to tell me that she chose John 3:16 because she thought it would make Pastor Jonathan feel good to be reminded that his mom had everlasting life now and was doing great.

Wow. I have to admit I have never thought of using John 3:16 during a time of mourning but what an incredible verse it is to encourage our hearts that this life is only temporary and that is why Jesus came so that we could have our sins paid for and spend eternity in Heaven with Him when we die.

Suddenly, the suffocating grip of the concerns on my heart began to ease as I began to focus on this hope of eternal life.

I think it’s so easy to lose sight of eternity when we grovel through the hard times in this life, but that is when we need God’s promises the most. We need to cling to the fact that this is not our home. This is only temporary. Heaven is what is forever.


I once heard a powerful message by Francis Chan entitled “What Are You Living For?” In it, he used an illustration that I have never forgotten. He took a very large rope and with it outlined the edges of the entire auditorium. He showed the audience the very end of the rope which was spray painted red and explained that the inch of rope that was spray painted represented our life here on this earth while the rest of the rope that lined the auditorium represented all of eternity. He then concluded with the question—what are you living for? The temporal or the eternal? That which fades away or that which lasts forever?

So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.  2 Corinthians 4:18

I’m finding that this is such an important key to working through our pain because when we focus on the here and now it is absolutely devastating, but when we place all our hope in Jesus and know that our eternity is with Him we find the PEACE, COMFORT, and STRENGTH to carry on. Yes, we still hurt and we still face grief, but we do not grieve as those without hope (I Thessalonians 4:14b)—and what a difference hope makes.

I’m so thankful for the hope that Heaven holds. The Bible says in Revelation 21:4-5, 23-27 that in Heaven:

  • There will be no more sickness.
  • There will be no more death.
  • There will be no more crying for He will wipe every tear from our eyes.
  • There will be no more hunger or thirst. (Revelation 7:16)
  • There will be no more evil.
  • There will be no more night.
  • We will be present with the Lord and will worship Him forever.

Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him. ~2 Corinthians 2:9

What a HOPE, what a PROMISE, what a FUTURE that we can cling to during the difficult moments here on this earth.


At the funeral service we attended yesterday, there was a song that the family chose that was most eloquently sung and is still echoing in my mind and ministering to my heart. I leave these words of hope with you and pray that it can be an encouragement to you today:

No More Night

The timeless theme, Earth and Heaven will pass away
It’s not a dream, God will make all things new that day
Gone is the curse from which I stumbled and fell
Evil is banished to eternal hell

No more night, no more pain
No more tears, never crying again
And praises to the great, “I AM”
We will live in the light of the risen Lamb

See all around, now the nations bow down to sing
The only sound is the praises to Christ, our King
Slowly the names from the book are read
I know the King, so there’s no need to dread

No more night, no more pain
No more tears, never crying again
And praises to the great, “I AM”
We will live in the light of the risen Lamb

See over there, there’s a mansion that’s prepared just for me
Where I will live with my Savior eternally

No more night, no more pain
No more tears, never crying again
And praises to the great, “I AM”
We will live in the light of the risen Lamb

All praises to the great, “I AM”
We’re gonna live in the light of the risen Lamb

by Walter S. Harrah



We had looked forward to our family fall break getaway for weeks. We were headed to Hilton Head Island and had a magical 3 day vacation all planned out. We couldn’t wait to bike ride all around the island, to surf the waters (that would be my husband and daughter doing the surfing with me cheering them on, of course), to eat at fun restaurants, and to take long walks on the beach.

But as it turned out, things didn’t go quite exactly as planned. The day before we left we got a call from the school nurse that our daughter had a fever and was not feeling well at all.

After carefully thinking it through, we decided to still go ahead with our trip but we definitely had to scale it back considerably. Instead of biking and walking and building sandcastles on the beach, we were pretty much resigned to just sitting on the beach and taking it real easy—a mode that we weren’t really accustomed to and quite honestly don’t always do well.

However, sometimes the quiet moments can be exactly what we need to transform a weary soul and that is exactly what I began to discover as I basked in the sun, the sand, and the still.  photo-34

As I began to slow down in those moments on the beach I began to realize just how tired and worn out I was, and it didn’t take much soul-searching to realize why. For just in the past three months, we hosted over a dozen sets of guests at our house, I spoke/sang at 12 ministry events which all involved travel, the school year began with all of those responsibilities and activities, I had continued writing and preparing for speaking events, we had helped with my parents, and the list went on and on. All wonderful things that we felt led to do, but when combined all together it added up to an out-of-control schedule and an overwhelmed heart.

Somehow, despite my best intentions, I had seen everything as a yes and hardly anything as a no.

But I love how even when allow things to spiral out of control, God will lovingly reach down and meet us where we are at. And that’s exactly what He did for me during those two glorious days at the beach.

I quickly realized that it was no mistake that I had grabbed a book that I had been wanting to reread—a book that had challenged my heart once before and a book that God would use again to speak into my scattered life.


In The Best Yes, Lysa Terkeurst navigates through this struggle of getting to our Best Yes and here are a few of the powerful truths that washed over my soul:

  1. Saying yes all the time won’t make me Wonder Woman. It will make me a worn out woman. photo-25
  2. Not every assignment is my assignment.
  3. Reactive lives get very exhausting, very quickly. We get requests. We fill up our schedules all the way to the limit. We leave very little white space. We live lives that exhaust us.
  4. A woman who lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul. photo-23
  5. The decisions we make dictate the schedules we keep. The schedules we keep determine the lives we live. The lives we live determine how we spend our souls. photo-27
  6. Find that courageous yes. Fight for that confident no. Know it. State it. Own it. And move on without all the complication.
  7. I will not let the awkward disappointment of others keep me from my Best Yes appointments with God.

While all of these points most definitely impacted me, what spoke loudest to me was right in front of me.


These two. I love them fiercely and they have my heart forever. And the truth is:

Every time I say yes to everything else, I am often saying no to them.

Not a literal no. I hardly ever do that. But here’s how it plays out for me—I make sure that I am always there for them, but I stay up late to work on everything else I need to get done and get up very early in the morning and work feverishly all throughout the day when I am not with them to finish everything I have signed up for. And quite frankly, this is what can take its toll and wear me out making me tired, frustrated, and not my best for anyone.

So what’s the answer? How do we figure out the quandary of what to say yes to and what to say no to?

I will be the first to tell you that I don’t have it all figured out and I don’t always get it perfectly right. But here’s what I do know—as I shared last week, I want to choose well each day and make every moment count in my relationship with God, my family, and to those He has placed within my path each day.

I don’t want to highjack my schedule, my focus, and even my heart with so many commitments that I miss out on God’s best assignments and plans for me. That is why it is so important for me to remember that sometimes the path to the Best Yes involves exercising a beautiful no.

I admit—I’ve got the yes thing down pat, it’s the beautiful no that can trip me up. And I have a feeling I am not the only one. For some reason, we can all feel guilty, uncaring, and even unspiritual saying no when the reality is —saying no can sometimes be the most healthy thing for us, our families, and for finding God’s best for our lives.

But on the other hand, I don’t want to swing to the other end of the photo-31pendulum and always respond with a quick no and miss out on God-ordained moments to help and make a difference. I often wonder what if my parents hadn’t chosen the best yes that day as they stood on my family’s doorstep? What if they had dismissed the gentle nudge from the Lord to get involved in my family’s pain? My life would have been so different, my story would not be the same. Because they said yes, the course of my life was changed forever.

So, what I am learning is that there really is no cut and dry answer. There is no exact formula for knowing when to say yes and when to say no. The ONLY way to figure it out is to get on our knees and to passionately seek God’s face each day asking Him to direct our EVERY step so that every moment of our lives is not overflowing with OUR plans but is only led by HIS BEST for every area of our lives.

A man’s heart plans his ways. But the Lord directs his steps.  Proverbs 16:9



  • Joslyn - Thank you – your thoughts really resonated with me- I want to have coffee one of these days when you have room for a yes😌💗ReplyCancel

    • pauladunn - Sounds great, Joslyn! I look forward to it!ReplyCancel


Life is all about choices. And perhaps one of the biggest choices I make every single day is how I spend my time and what I invest my heart, soul, and life into each day.

The reality is we all have the same 24 hours a day, but how we spend those hours truly varies and ultimately comes down to what is important to each of us. And what I am learning is that if I am not careful with my time I can spend chunks of my day staying very busy but not really landing on what matters most.

John Maxwell says:

Activity is not necessarily accomplishment.

Wow. Isn’t that the truth! We all know how to be busy and run around from sun up to sun down, but what are we really accomplishing? What are we really investing our lives in?

Right now, as I am typing, it is 11 a.m., which means almost half of my day is gone—11 hours that I can never have back again. What have I done with these hours? Can I say that I have spent any of that time in a meaningful way?

Teach us, Lord, to number our days.  Psalm 90:12

What if we made this verse our life motto? What if every time we looked at our watches we recognized that every hour is truly a gift from God that we will never have again? Would we live with a greater sense of urgency? Would we live with more intention?

I love this quote by Tim Kizzair:

Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things that don’t really matter.     

I don’t want to just go through life surviving, coping, and existing. I don’t want to chase after things that don’t align with the dreams and plans God has for me. I want more from life. I want to experience that abundant life that Jesus talked about in John 10:10, a life that I believe is characterized by living with intention, purpose, and investing in things that truly matter.


So, how do we choose well each day and live each day that God gives us to the fullest?

Only you can search your heart to determine how God wants you to spend your days. But here are a few questions that help me stay focused on what I believe God has called me to each day:

  1. Have I spent quality time with God?
  2. Have I loved, encouraged, and taken care of my family to the best of my ability?
  3. Have I fulfilled my responsibilities with excellence?
  4. Have I taken steps towards living out my dream?
  5. Have I encouraged or helped someone?
  6. Have I taken time to have fun, to enjoy life, and recharge myself?

James 4:14 says that our lives are vapors that appear for a short while and then quickly vanish away. I couldn’t agree more. It feels like just yesterday I was a teenager and somehow I blinked and now I’m in my 40’s. Life is just flying by and I only have one shot at this thing called life. I want to LIVE IT WELL, and in order to do so, I must CHOOSE WELL each day.

Lord Jesus, help me to see each day as a precious gift from You, as a day that I can never experience again, and a day that is a fresh opportunity to use my life to make a difference for You. May I not look back at yesterday or race forward towards tomorrow, but may I live today to its fullest making the most of every moment to bring the greatest glory to Your name.