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shutterstock_310290668“Mommy, when I become someone’s friend, I am their friend forever,” my daughter imploringly told me with a catch in her voice and tears clouding her bright blue eyes.

My heart hurt for her as I listened to her share about one of her close friends not wanting to play with her anymore. And the mamma bear nearly came out in me as I watched my little girl run up to her little friend each morning excitedly asking her if she would like to play at recess only to be told “let me think about it and let you know.” Unfortunately, day after day, the answer was always no.

I have to admit there was many a day I wanted to jump right in and fix it (one way or another), but with God’s help and all the restraint I could muster, I didn’t intervene. And I’m so glad I didn’t, for it became a teachable moment for my daughter and for me—an opportunity to really explore how to handle ourselves when things go awry in this beautiful yet messy thing called friendship.

Interestingly enough, I had been walking and catching up with a neighbor friend at that time who shared with me some things she had learned at a leadership conference—one of them being the Be-Do-Have approach to business. Later, as I thought about that conversation, God began to show me how to implement those three powerful words into my daughter’s situation. Here’s what we learned:

  • Instead of focusing on HAVING friends, we need to be more concerned with BEING a friend. We want to be that friend that sharpens, encourages and cheers others on (Proverbs 27:17). We need to commit to being a friend at ALL times (Proverbs 17:17) —not just through the fun and happy times but through the good, the bad, and the ugly, for love never fails (I Corinthians 13:8).
  • We need to always DO our part to make things right. This is done when we go to the person to work things out, but it also involves doing what Scripture tells us to do in Matthew 5:44 when dealing with conflict:
    • Love your enemies.
    • Bless those who curse you.
    • Do good to those who hate you.
    • Pray for those who spitefully use you.
    • As my daughter and I applied this verse, we found it was pretty hard to stay upset at someone when you pray for them faithfully, for prayer has a way of softening hearts and breaking down walls.
  • Rather than obsessing over how we have been hurt or rejected, CELEBRATE who we HAVE  all around us. There are always opportunities to pour into others and be a blessing, but we must CHOOSE to do so.

In case you are wondering, my daughter’s situation ended beautifully because she made the choice to see opportunities that she had right in front of her and as a result, reconnected with a sweet friend and made two new beautiful friendships.

Oh, and let me just say that God has such a sense of humor and impeccable timing. Today (on the very day that I wrote this blog) my daughter’s little friend came up to my daughter out of the blue after school and apologized for not playing with her and promised to play with my daughter and her friends tomorrow. Amazing how prayer changes things, huh? Here’s the best part of all—regardless of whether the friend plays with her or not, we have learned it’s going to be alright because of the lessons we have learned in this whole process and the choice to implement three simple words—BE-DO-HAVE.

The reality is whether we are 8 or 43 (yes, I’m referring to myself), we all want to be loved, appreciated, and valued by others. We all want to matter. And sometimes friendship which can so wonderfully enhance our lives can also bitterly disappoint us when it fails to meet our hopes and expectations. But as my daughter and I worked through this whole friendship drama, we were reminded that there is a FOREVER FRIEND who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24) and who has promised NEVER to leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5b) and who will meet our EVERY need. In fact, He loves us so fiercely that He even gave His life for us. And because of that, we can CELEBRATE that in Him there is no greater friend!

“Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”  ~John 15:13



  • Gail Smith - Very sweet and I love how it all turned out !ReplyCancel


Never in a million years would I have imagined going to a Christian movie in a theater and being SO profoundly impacted.

Let’s be honest, Christian movies have sometimes gotten a bad rap for cheesy acting, poorly written scripts, or even worse, story lines that deviate from or water down the truth.  So, I sheepishly admit to being a little hesitant in enthusiastically rushing to the theater to see The War Room.

But I must say, from the moment the movie reel began, the War Room was anything but just a movie for me, it was an experience. An experience where I laughed, I cried, and I even worshipped as I was so powerfully reminded of the POWER and the HOPE that is found in Jesus!



And guess what? I even went back to see it AGAIN…this time with my husband, and we were both moved, challenged, and even beckoned to change.

Change. You might wonder—How can a movie be life-changing? As I’ve pondered that over the last 2 weeks, here is what I keep coming back to:

When you take 2 hours and focus with undivided attention on the POWER of PRAYING in JESUS’ NAME, you can’t help but leave CHANGED!


So, here is how the War Room challenged my heart:

  1. Prayer need to be SPECIFIC. Philippians 4:6 tells us to make our requests known to God. In order to do so, we need to boldly and specifically pray over EVERY detail of our lives. The movie definitely spurred me on to be more diligent in writing out my requests and including verses and promises from God’s Word to bolster my faith.
  2. Prayer needs to be FERVENT. James 5:16 says that “the effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails MUCH.” After watching this movie, I began asking myself—when was the last time I got on my face before the Lord and fervently prayed for our country, for refugees desperately trying to escape ISIS, for Christians persecuted across the world, and the list goes on. This movie both convicted and ignited my heart to not just be consumed with the needs that affect me personally but to become more fervent in prayer for the needs of the world around me.
  3. Prayer needs to be CONTINUAL. I Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray without ceasing. If I am honest, I can start off strong constantly praying for the needs that are close to my heart, but as time marches on and as distractions set in, sometimes those requests can take a backseat to keeping up with life’s daily demands. As the movie so powerfully demonstrates, praying continually simply means making it a priority to ALWAYS go to God with our concerns, our struggles, our decisions, and our worship.
  4. Prayer needs to be IN JESUS’ NAME. Prayer is not meditation; it is not quiet reflection; prayer is claiming power that is found in the life, the death, the burial, and the resurrection of Jesus Christ. This power is mentioned 311 times in the New Testament and is available to us when we receive it in prayer.


But perhaps the biggest take away from this movie is the way it encouraged my heart that Christianity is still alive in America! Just the fact that a low-budget Christian movie shown in a very limited number of theaters could blow past full budget movies released in the majority of theaters is such a powerful testament to me of the power of God.


And just when I feel like our country has turned away from God with its undeniable moral decline these last few years, the overwhelming and unexpected response to this movie speaks hope into my heart. Hope that no matter what is going on in our culture, nothing can take away from the fact that God is alive. God is on the throne, and He is still changing lives today!

So, God is doing His part, the question is—am I doing my part? Am I praying specifically, fervently and continually in Jesus’ name for my family, my country, and the world I live in?

Well, to answer that question, you will have to excuse me while I go clean out a closet. I have a War Room to prepare and a prayer life to ignite.

I pray that I am just one of many who do the same and that our collective prayers will avail MUCH as we lift up the needs of this world to the only ONE who can bring about healing and change.

If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from Heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.       2 Chronicles 7:14


*All graphics in this blog were taken from the Official War Room Facebook Page- a great place for continued inspiration!


Happy September, Everyone! I don’t know about you, but there is something about September that makes me want to pull out my cozy sweatshirts, my fun sweaters, my trendy boots, AND my crockpot.

Okay, I know I probably had you until I mentioned crockpot. I admit, it’s kind of strange to include that in with my favorite fall wardrobe pieces, but when I think of Fall I do LOVE coming home on a cool, crisp day to the amazing aroma filling my kitchen of a warm delicious meal already prepared in my crockpot. With hearty soups, yummy pasta dishes, and savory roasts and vegetables—there are many options that help provide a healthy meal for my family during the busy evening hours. And don’t even get me started on my favorite Fall desserts…

So, for this week’s blog, I thought I would do something totally FUN and different and include my favorite Fall crockpot recipe. Whether I am I am taking a meal to someone, having company over, or just wanting to make my family happy—this easy recipe is at the top of my list. My husband’s mom gave me this recipe years ago, and it has become a well-loved favorite by many. If you like Italian cuisine, you will love this.



1 lb. lean ground beef, cooked & drained

salt & pepper, as desired

1 60-oz can tomato juice

1 10-oz jar Prego traditional pasta sauce

1/2 cup of sugar (I sometimes use less sugar and/or substitute Stevia for part of it)

1 10-oz package egg noodles, thin (whole wheat or gluten free egg noodles are also available)

2 cups of grated colby jack cheese

Brown beef with salt and pepper. Drain. Add juice, pasta sauce and sugar and simmer for 30 minutes. Cook noodles for 1 minute in salted water, drain, and rinse. Add to tomato mixture and simmer another 25 minutes on low heat. To enhance flavor, refrigerate 3-12 hours. Top with cheese before cooking. Cook in crockpot on low setting for 3 hours or bake at 350 for 60-70 minutes.

This is wonderful with a fresh, healthy salad and warm rolls.


(Couldn’t resist including a picture of my little helper!)

Now that we have the meal out of the way, let’s move on to the best part of all—dessert. Anyone that knows me knows that I LOVE dessert…especially a homemade one.  And Fall definitely brings out the baking in me. I’m not sure if it’s the chilly weather that makes me crave warm treats or if it’s the fun trips to the orchard; either way, Apple Crisp is a dessert that we just can’t get enough of in the Fall. My husband likes to call it Apple Double Crisp because there is nothing worse to him than not having enough crisp to cover the apples, so I double the crisp part hence the name—Apple Double Crisp. Here’s my version:


Apple Double Crisp

5 cups of thinly sliced & peeled apples (In the late summer, I sometimes do fresh peaches instead) with 2-4 Tablespoons of sugar & cinnamon mixed in. Set aside.

Crisp Topping:

1 cup of oatmeal

1 cup of packed brown sugar

1/2 cup of all-purpose flour

1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon

1/2 cup of butter cut in small pieces

1/2 cup of coconut (optional)

For the topping, in a mixing bowl combine oats, brown sugar, flour, and cinnamon. Cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Stir in coconut.

Place fruit mixture in a 8X8 square baking dish or 8x 1/2-inch round baking dish. (I always add 1 or 2 Tablespoons of water on the bottom of the dish before I put the fruit mixture in). Sprinkle the crisp topping on top of the fruit making sure it is thoroughly covered. Bake at 375 for 45 minutes or until the top is golden. Serve warm with vanilla ice cream.


So, there you have two of my Fall favorites. What are some of yours? I’d love to hear from you and add some more wonderful Fall classics to my collection. Until next week,  Bon Appétit!


It happens every year. The knot in my throat. The pit in my stomach. The big hugs and “I love you” as she slowly walks into her new classroom—all the while glancing back for my reassurance, all the while taking a huge piece of my heart.

One would think I would have adjusted by now, but I haven’t! The beginning of school gets me EVERY time. I mean seriously, by 3rd grade I should really have this thing down pat by now, but instead what I am learning is that goodbyes are never easy. Whether a day in elementary school, a semester at college, or the day she leaves the nest and spreads her wings and flies (gulp), I have no doubt I will enthusiastically cheer her on with both excitement AND tears. Such a dichotomy, but all part of the process and all part of the journey of loving her, training her, and releasing her to live out the exciting dreams God has for her.


So, beyond being a crazy emotional mamma on this first day of school, I have also spent a good part of this day thinking of what I can do to help my girl have the best year possible. I concluded that with some defined goals, we can create an environment in which she can flourish. My list includes some things we already do and also some new things we are going to commit to this year and is as follows:

  1. Every night before going to bed, we will set out her clothes and pack her snack and lunch.
  2. Before packing her napkin in her lunch box, I will write an encouraging word, a Bible verse, or an “I Love You” on it. It’s a small way to let her know that I am thinking of her and cheering her on, and the memory will last a lifetime.
  3. I will make an effort to go to her lunch a number of times throughout the year. Not only am I doing this for her, but it also gives me insight into her friendships and into the dynamics of her little world.
  4. I will be a good steward of my time throughout the day, so I can be “all there” in the evening for dinner, homework, meaningful interaction, and bedtime.
  5. I will do my best to prepare healthy meals and to eat at home as much as possible on school nights. With some preplanning and a crockpot, this would be a healthier option.
  6. I will make sure bedtime is early enough to allow for enough sleep while at the same time giving ample time for girl talk. Some of our sweetest times are while we are lying in bed sharing every detail of our days.
  7. I will work hard to stay ahead of homework assignments. With so many extra curricular activities and distractions all around us, it is important for me, as a mom, to help my daughter stay focused on her responsibilities and to make sure everything is completed on time and done to the best of her ability.
  8. I will make sure she gets time to play and exercise each day. After sitting in class all day, that little body needs to get outside and play.
  9. I will plan for family fun on the weekends. We’ve just said goodbye to summer and to all the fun family times we shared. The school year doesn’t have to be just about grueling school work; we can still do fun things together such as apple picking, hiking, biking, baking, 4-wheeling, and lots of playing!
  10. I will PRAY for her and all her teachers every day. It’s hard not to be with her throughout the day, but how comforting to know that God is ALWAYS with her and He loves her even more than we do. I saw a great post this morning on Facebook for those of us leaving our little ones in other people’s hands:

Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you (them). He will be with you (them); He will neither fail you (them) or abandon you (them).    ~Dueteronomy 31:8

So that’s my list and my prayer is that we can all encourage one another in this whole parenting thing through sharing our hearts and ideas and being a support to one another. The reality is, we all have different situations— some moms work outside of the home, while others are stay-at-home moms; some have 1 child, while others have 2, 4, or even 6 or more; some have preschoolers, while others have elementary students, middle schoolers, high schoolers, or even college students. But as moms we all have 1 thing in common—we are in this thing together! It’s not always easy, but it is profoundly worthwhile. So, let’s inspire one another to be the best moms that we can be to these little ones that God has entrusted us with. Let’s laugh, cry, and cheer each other on as we pass each other in the classrooms, the ballfields, and the corridors of life together.

Oh, and by the way, my daughter came home from school today skipping and whistling and chattering about the AWESOME first day of school that she had. I had to laugh especially when I pulled this paper out of her backpack:


Apparently, she forgot ALL about the tears, fears, and nerves that we worked through for hours last night and which remained heavy on this mama’s heart today as I thought about her, prayed for her, and even blogged about her pretty much all day. Isn’t it funny how that works? But the truth is, minus the tears, I wouldn’t want it any other way!



It felt like time stood still as the past and the present intersected in a glorious moment that took my breath away. So many thoughts and so many emotions filled my heart as I watched my daughter sing her very first solo on the very same stage where it all began for me when I was her age. It was such a surreal experience not just because I was so proud of my little girl, but also because of the profound symbolism that moment held—symbolism of God’s incredible faithfulness through EVERY moment of my life.


As I stood there on the stage while my daughter sang, I couldn’t help but reflect on how God was with me in the difficult moments of my life. As a child, I experienced first-hand the devastating effects that drugs and alcohol had on my family. As a child, I also knew what it was to have a mother die of cancer. But as a child, I also experienced God’s faithfulness as He directed a family from that very church to come to my house and offer HOPE and the LOVE of Jesus. That family took me into their home and loved me and raised me as their very own and because of their faithfulness to Jesus Christ, my life was given meaning and hope.

There is hardly a day that goes by when I don’t think of where my life could have been if God had not intervened. But that is exactly what God does. He takes the broken pieces of our lives and masterfully weaves them together to form a story of grace like no other.  ~Taken from Dare to Soar

As we spent the week touring and singing at some of the same churches that I sang at as a teenager, I found myself sharing with my daughter the stories of how God opened the doors for me as a young girl to sing for Him and how He began using me in ways that I never dreamed possible. Before long, I began to realize this trip was more than just a concert tour, this trip was a time of remembrance of ALL that God had done for me.


Interestingly, I just recently have been reading about the Israelites who also knew what it was like to look back and to remember God’s faithfulness to them after they crossed the Jordan River into the Promised Land. This wasn’t a typical trek for them, and I wonder if some were even a little fearful as the entire group of Israelites prepared to cross the river. Joshua, perhaps sensing their apprehension, gathered them together and reassuringly told them to consecrate themselves because the Lord was going to do wonders among them (Joshua 3:5).

And that is exactly what God did- He showed up and did the miraculous as He rolled the waters back so the entire nation of Israel could cross over the Jordan on dry land. Then, as soon as the last poky person made it to the other side, the waters flowed back. I love it when God moves, for when He moves, He moves MIGHTILY so there is no question in anyone’s mind that it is ALL Him!

After the Israelites had triumphantly crossed the Jordan, the Lord instructed them to take 12 stones from the Jordan and to set up a memorial—a memorial so that when their children would ask the meaning of the stones they would hear the incredible story of God’s faithfulness to them (Joshua 4:20-24).

Last week, as I retold the stories of God’s faithfulness to my daughter, I began to realize that remembering God’s faithfulness brings glory to Him but also does the following for me:

1.  Remembering God’s Provision in the PAST is a constant  reminder that He has never let me down. He has always taken care of my EVERY need and ALWAYS will.

2.  Rehearsing God’s Faithfulness in the PRESENT ignites my heart to worship and praise Him for all that He has done for me. How can I keep silent when He has done the miraculous for me?

3.  Reiterating God’s Promises for the FUTURE is possible because He has never failed me in the past and certainly isn’t going to start now. He promises never to leave me nor forsake me and holds my entire life in the palm of His hand.


So, thank you, sweet girl, for being so brave and singing for Jesus last week. You not only touched the audiences in a powerful way, but you blessed your mommy’s heart more than you will ever know. I pray that you will never forget ALL that God has done for me which plays a part in ALL that He has done and will do for you. May we both always share His faithfulness “so that people of the earth may know that the Lord’s hand is mighty, and so that you may always fear the Lord your God” (Joshua 4:24).

  • Gail Smith - Love that you shared Emma with us.
    When our boys were young there was no doubt where we stood in our beliefs and that we loved the Lord. Jack and I were their example to follow, not always perfect but they knew we believed. #trainupachildReplyCancel

    • pauladunn - Gail- I love the unwavering testimony you & Jack have had all throughout the years. You all have been great examples in the lives of many people…especially your boys and now your sweet grandbabies! LOVE that!!!ReplyCancel

  • Joseph E Young, Sr. - Very pleased and proud of her and especially the job that you and Rob have done in raising her. I enjoy reading your posts daily and it is obvious that all that you do and say is in the name of the lord and for his glory. I am very sorry that I was not able to see you, Rob and Emma while you were in Maine! Love you!ReplyCancel

    • pauladunn - Thanks, Joe! I so appreciate your encouraging words! Congrats on your retirement! 🙂 Love to you & Beth…ReplyCancel

  • Sue Happel - Beautiful, Paula! What a wonderful, sweet girl Emma has become. How uplifting it is to hear those precious words sung from her heart. Blessings to you and your family. Miss seeing you all.ReplyCancel

    • pauladunn - Thanks, Sue, for your sweet words! It means so much! 🙂 We miss seeing you all too! Blessings to you all…ReplyCancel